This is not the number of available dates. Height, children, commitment, faith, body type and personal qualities are not in this percentage. Neither are mutual attraction or compatibility.
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The Reality
Check.
You know what you want.
Let’s look at the whole picture.
The height.
The paycheck.
The way they show up.
We can put numbers to some of that. The rest shows up in how we treat each other. Let’s keep the two separate.
Here’s what the numbers say.
And just as important: what they don’t.
Here’s what was counted.
Follow the same group through each requirement. The starting group stays the same; each row adds one filter.
Change one thing.
Curious about a different age range or income minimum? Change one thing and compare. You decide what stays.
A comparison is not advice to settle. These are estimated demographic groups, not your odds of finding a relationship.
Your height preference, in context.
Different respondents, survey dates and population coverage from ACS. Ages 18–19 are not included in this adult reference. Percentiles are published point estimates, not confidence intervals or exact threshold probabilities. The 95th percentile is not published for the 80+ groups.
See the published height measurements
| Percentile | Height (cm) | Converted inches |
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Source: CDC/NCHS, Anthropometric Reference Data, August 2021–August 2023, Table 7, printed page 8 ↗. Published June 2025. Inches are converted from the published centimeters.
The part a percentage can’t answer.
Do they call when they say they will? Do they take an interest in your day? Can we talk without everything becoming a fight?
Your choices below matter. They did not change the demographic percentage.
The number is not the whole conversation.
A place to listen. A place to reflect. No pressure to buy.
Shown first because you chose a conversation to listen to.
Pull up a chair.
We talk about the things a checklist can’t tell us. The effort. The honesty. The ordinary days. And what happens when we’re tired of doing all the work alone.
Shown first because you chose a book to work through.
The Last Time I Apologize for Being Too Much
For the moments we catch ourselves apologizing for wanting care, honesty, or a little effort back. Take the conversation off the screen and into your own life.
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Say what you want.
Choose your requirements and personal preferences. You don't have to defend them here.
See how filters combine.
The Census engine calculates requirements together. It does not multiply unrelated Census, CDC and dating-survey percentages.
Explore. Don't judge.
Change a preference and compare. A narrower group does not mean your standards are wrong.
Before we make the number
mean more than it does.
Is this my chance of finding a relationship?
No. It describes a demographic combination. It does not tell us who is dating, who is interested in you, or how two people would treat each other.
Why doesn’t every answer change the percentage?
The Census records can support age, income, education and marital status together. Height comes from a different survey. Other answers stay in your checklist rather than becoming unsupported deductions.
Does a small percentage mean my standards are wrong?
No. A smaller estimated group is not a reason to accept dishonesty, neglect, or a relationship you do not want. Use the comparisons to think—not to judge yourself or anybody else.
What happens to my answers?
This calculator has no account, email gate, or form submission. Your answers stay in this tab unless you choose to save or copy them. On the website, ordinary requests load the public data for your selected group and region; hosting logs may record those requests. No analytics is included in this build.